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For Church and Family (010) Prayer

In this post I encourage parents to set an example of the significance of prayer in the corporate gatherings. This is a moment to set all things aside here and listen closely and to pray.

Tips for Church and Family

  • Parents:
    • Teach this at home.
    • Create an expected pattern at home that before meals this family prays.
    • Teach your children that at the church house on the Lord’s Day, we will spend some of that time praying together with our church family. Teach them that this is a gathering of families that pray together.
    • Instruct them at home to be prepared to stop what they are doing and join together in prayer.
  • Church:
    • Prayer time is not the time to gather up all of your belonging to prepare to leave. Little eyes will pick up on this quickly and will check out.
    • Prayer time is not the moment to leave the room.
    • Prayer time is significant, treat it as such.

For Church and Family (009) the Lord’s Table

In this post I encourage parents to formally train their children about the Lord’s Table at home so that when they are at the church house and the gathered saints proclaim the Lord’s death in the corporate proclamation is something to watch. Teach them why they should wait to take it until they have made a confession of the Lordship of Jesus Christ.

Tips for Church and Family.

  • Parents:
    • This is important because your sons and daughters are watching a people make confession about the death of the Lord Jesus Christ.
    • Explain what the cup and the bread represent.
    • Explain why, especially if they are young and asking questions, who is able to take the bread and the cup.
    • Point out that those who take this when it comes by have made Jesus Christ the Lord of their lives and submit to him as their Lord.
    • Explain only those who professes this do this.
    • With holding it from them is not abusive. It is actually eternally helpful, until they are old enough to understand what is actually happening and if they understand.
  • Church:
    • Treat this with seriousness.
    • Heads of households, gather your family together when the pastor instructs you on the Lord’s Day and pray with your family. Your children will not think this strange if you do what the pastor instructs.
    • When you pray, pray for salvation to come to those who are not yet redeemed.
    • Pray for the boys and girls as they watch and listen to what is happening at this moment. The Gospel is being proclaimed.

For Church and Family (007) Clothing

In this short clip I give instructions about training children in how they dress and behave at the church house on the Lord’s Day. Talk about why we dress differently on the Lord’s Day than any other day. The why is very important on this topic.

Tips for Church and Family

  • Parents:
    • We are not building a case for a dress code. As a parent, we want to train our children about the significant event we are going to participate in and we dress significantly different for significant occasions.
    • Make the plans on Saturday night for what each of the children will wear on Sunday morning. This will help so that there is less stress on the Lord’s Day for finding the matching socks, locating a belt, or what color shirt/blouse goes with what color pants/dress.
    • Make this a normal routine while they are young. Remember you are training a child in a pattern or way. Make this a special routine with special treats upon occasion.
    • Model this in what you wear.
  • Church:
    • Encourage parents who are doing this. This is not an easy thing to do on early Lord’s Days. It is a lot of work and effort.
    • If you speak about a child’s clothing, be sure to only mention the clothing.
    • If you see families dressing nicely on the Lord’s Day, consider helping them by setting an example for them and their children.
    • Show these young ones in our congregation that this special gathering deserves nice clothing.

NOTE: This is not a matter to get too worked up on. But don’t miss the benefit that this is. It is not a small thing.

For Church and Family (005) Listening to the Preaching

In this post I explain the reasons behind parents teaching their children to listen to the preaching. The hardest thing to teach a child in church is to listen to the preaching.

Tips for Church and Family

  • Parents:
    • Be consistent
    • Talk about this at home before you arrive.
    • As the grow older help them desire to listen to the preaching.
    • If a child needs to go to the bathroom every week, make a trip to the bathroom before you enter the auditorium.
  • Church:
    • Do your best to not get up and leave during the preaching.
    • Be sure to turn your phone off.
    • Display a discipline of not using your phone for messaging or games.

For Church and Family (004) Teach them to Listen

In this post I encourage parents to read ahead in the scripture text at home and teach the children to listen for key words, listen to what songs we sang, ask them later what they heard.

Tips for Church and Family

  • Parents:
    • Read the text that your church is preaching through at home several times before the coming Lord’s Day. Make this a habit even if the children don’t understand what’s going on.
    • Note key words for the children to listen for.
    • Teach about those key words.
    • Only bring quiet items into the church house
    • Follow up with questions after.
    • Ask; “What songs did we sing at the church house today?”
    • Have an expectation
  • Church:
    • Give the children something honorable to imitate

For Church and Family (003) Singing

In this clip I encourage parents to teach the children to sing at and with the church family when we gather on the Lord’s Day.

Tips for Church and Family:

  • Parents:
    • instruct your children to sing.
    • They don’t have to know how to read in order to sing.
    • Use the home study guide to teach songs.
    • Use the singing time as a starter for paying attention to what is happening and the importance of participating with everyone.
    • This is a good time to put down the toys and coloring books, and sing.
  • Church:
    • Sing!

For Church and Family (002) Teach Children to Anticipate the Lord’s Day

In today’s post I encourage parents to teach their children to treat the Lord’s Day as an anticipated event when we gather at the church house, and when we go to the church house it is different than when we go to the park.

Tips for Church and Family:

  • Parents:
    • Take time this week to train your children what rowdy behavior is and when and where it is appropriate to behave like that.
      • You could even make a game out of it with pictures of places that it is appropriate to use a loud voice or when it is appropriate to use a quiet voice.
      • Ask your children how they think they should behave in different places and why.
      • Be sure to speak about the difference between being quiet at the movie house and quiet at the church house may be similar for behavior at the church house is different, and why its different.
      • Be sure to explain why it’s o.k. to be loud and rowdy at some places and not others. They need to know why.
      • Talk about God everyday. Not as someone we go visit on the Lord’s Day, but the one we gather with others to worship at the same place, on the same day, at the same time.
    • Build an expectation for the Lord’s Day. Make a big deal about it. Talk about it all week long. All of us plan our lives around what we anticipate.
  • Church:
    • Be sure to speak to the children at the church house on the Lord’s Day. This will increase the desire in them to want to come.
    • Be sure to model for the children in our church what adults look like who anticipate gathering on the Lord’s Day.

For Church and Family (001)

Today, I begin a series on church and family. I will lay out several short clips over the next few weeks from my Sunday evening teaching entitled “For Church and Family.”

These should be considered for consideration only. This is not a prescription or a requirement. I believe it will be helpful in all of our homes.

In this introduction I lay out a case for parents, children and the church as a whole to begin a needed conversation about what is helpful for family and church when we gather together. These posts will include a video clip from the October 15, evening teaching with ideas, cautions, encouragements and considerations.

A primary Scripture text over the past several weeks in the series of messages on parenting has been the benefit of Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go…” The key in this text is that we should consider the way the child should go not the way the child’s will wants to go. This is in relationship to behavior primarily. It can apply to the path of life but for the use in this series it is primarily used in behavior.

It has been my prayer that this be a blessing. I respect that a family who attends Eastside Baptist Church has a hard work to do. I think it is a good work. Yes, sometimes, a good work is hard work, but in the end it is a reward.

My encouragement to all parents in this God ordained work is to not grow weary in doing good (Galations 6:9).

On any given Lord’s Day at Eastside Baptist Church we will have from 20 to 30 children under the age of 12 in our morning gathering. That is a blessing from God. Treat it as such and bless the Lord for it.

Tips for Church and Family:

  • Parents:
    • Consider using the term “Lord’s Day” when you speak about Sunday’s.
    • Take time this week when you gather your children together and communicate what it looks like for your family when you gather at the church house with the church family.
    • Age appropriately, include your children in the discussion by asking them what they think you expect from them on the Lord’s Day.
    • Discuss why you expect them to behave as you instruct.
    • Protect yourself from being frustrated with your children.
    • Don’t grow weary in doing good.
  • Church:
    • Be patient with the children and their parents. It is a blessing to have them with us.
    • Pray for parents as they give helpful instructions to their children.
    • Pray for the children to want to heed their parents instructions.

Decay of Nations

I began preaching through Isaiah several weeks ago and am very thankful to God for these strong warnings. As one looks and listens to Isaiah warn the nation of Israel it is not missed why they were judged by God so harshly as they ignored God and His preacher.

I began preaching chapter three last Lord’s Day. Here, Isaiah informs the nation of what it will look like as the decay of the nation is in full effect. There are many things along the way that lead to this but Isaiah makes it very clear what the last days of the nation that rebels against God looks like. All nations should look closely at this. All Churches should pay close attention to this. Every family should stop and look into these words. Every professing believer should examine his life closely against the plumb line of holy Scripture.

Here is a general look at the entire chapter three. (Based on Isaiah 3:1-12)

  • There will be a removal of the great and mighty men. One of the first marks of decay is not a falling away of great men, but a removal of them. There will be a noticeable shortage in the land of wise, prudent, disciplined, discerning, honorable, skilled men of honor and valor.
  • The shortage of men of honor and valor will be replaced with incompetent, undisciplined, dishonorable,  and childish desires will seize them to attract selfish attention upon themselves and prolong childhood by delaying manhood.
  • There will be a rise of weak willed, moody, rude, arrogant, disrespectful, children who will demand from and oppress the elders. Many cities will notice a shortage of reliable and discerning leaders. Churches will water down the criteria for biblical leadership in light of this great shortage. Children will rule their homes with demanding behaviors that parents will give in to for fear of tyrannical tantrum raging children.
  • A generation or two of this without widespread correction of course will only intensify selfishness among society at large.
  • Disrespect for elders becomes the norm of the day. Where there is a lack of biblical social order in the home, in the church, and in the society, anarchy becomes a path most desired and appears appealing to the majority. This kind of chaos replaces peace with widespread unrest.

It is necessary for this progression to happen for a total collapse of a nation. If foolishness attempted to overthrow a nation ruled by men of valor and godly honor it would be thwarted with ease and a corrective course would happen quickly.

The family must recover. Husbands must pray that God would grant them courage and pray that God would give mercy to their wives. Fathers must instruct the children and mothers must gather and nurture the children. Parents must co-labor in this God ordained duty.

Where are you family?

The church must come out of her slumber. Pastors must lead, deacons must serve, congregations must secure the preaching post with heralders of truth. She must advance this gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ without any mixture of the philosophies of men or fallen angels.

Where are you church?

Where the family and church was once the birthplace and training ground that society looked to for principles of justice and good will, the majority are now petri-dishes of undisciplined selfish little boys and girls who demand others give them what they want while redefining and rebuilding a society that more impoverishes and distresses  with the markings or the Judges of what it’s like when everyone does what is right in their own eyes and hates that which is true and just.

Arise Church! to your duty! The day demands it! Our Lord commands us!

Go into this day and advance this Gospel, now!

 

The Evangel

Anyone who claimed September 23, 2017 as the end of the world and used the bible to prove their position should be viewed as a false prophet.

Church, discipline yourself to put our primary work in front of us and be faithful to the work of the evangel (the gospel). Date setting is no new thing and we should expect that as dates come and go that a more predictable pattern is that date setters will be required to adjust and reinterpret their claims.

Yes, we should give ourselves to reading Scripture and noticing that the time must be near, but be sure not to get distracted with that which will distract from the Gospel. Give yourself rather to living a life devoted to the Lordship of Christ in your life and speaking the grace of God in His gospel to all.

Date setting the unknown things of God is irresponsible evangelism.

Give yourself to responsible evangelism. Proclaiming the truth of God, the nature of humanity, the redeeming work of Christ, and the required response to this truth; this is our great duty.

Here are a few things I see that normally happens when the date setters gain popularity and their dates pass by…

  • They will claim they overlooked a particular calculation.
  • They will say “I didn’t actually say…”
  • They will bring other verses into the conversation that they didn’t use or see previously.
  • They will call planets stars or give vague dogmatic comments such as “this kind of connection gives me goose bumps just thinking about it.”
  • They will eventually re-date to another date without any consideration to what God says about those who presumptuously speak on His behalf in Deuteronomy 18:22
“When a prophet speaks in the name of the LORD, if the thing does not come about or come true, that is the thing which the LORD has not spoken. The prophet has spoken it presumptuously; you shall not be afraid of him.” (Deuteronomy 18:22)
 Give yourself to the advancing of the evangel (the Gospel).
 
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